Thursday, January 28, 2016

Think Success*Work Success*Be Success

Those moments when inspiration hits you.... for me it is often in the shower, it is a MUST to act on them. Why? Because there is a timely message for you.. and who knows who else. And from what I have learned, if you don't act on them ~ the message will be shared with someone who will.

Think Success. 
Work Success.

Be Success. 

A simple little process yet so very profound. Almost so profound that it is often difficult to decipher what that really means. Confusing even if you are not clear in the understanding. At first when you hear the words "Think Success" you first assume it means the actual work part. However, it is a completely different ballgame! Just as football and baseball are nothing alike, thinking and doing are just as different.

Before you can find true long lasting results from working success you have to get through the thinking process. It is as much as, as long as, and even a bit more important than the work portion, but when done correctly and completely, it is the strongest foundation your success in anything can be built upon.

Once you understand the thinking success, and working success you then MUST discover what in the world "Be success" really means. I hope the following notes I jotted down and shared in THIS VIDEO will help you discover your own journey to success in whatever it is your seeking it in.


* What is it that you are wanting success in?
Is it in your career, business, relationships, the way in which you run your home, fitness, weight loss, or something different? Success to you in what you desire is completely and solely up to YOU and you alone... just as is the failure in those things. You have to know what (or where) exactly that you are desiring to see success in.

*Why is it so important?
If you do not know your why... you are wasting your time and energy. (Here is a video I did a while back that might explain why it is so important to know your why).

*What does success in this look like to you?
This is one of the MOST important pieces of information that can not only bring you clarity but will bring you inspiration as well. YOU MUST sit ... and visualize what this success looks like! If your wanting success in your relationship with your spouse what does that look like? Write out a perfect day together that highlights every thing that you desire. If your wanting to become a successful author what does that look like? If your wanting to be more fit... what do YOU look like at your best fitness level? Spend some time (yes ... you have it just give up some of the time your wasting on other things) and figure this out. YOU WILL NOT succeed in the level that you desire if you do not do this!

*What will you do to reach this goal? 
You can't just go get in your car without knowing where your going to go. You can't just bake a cake without knowing the steps and ingredients you will need. Sure you can get a good idea, but unless you know the time it will take (estimated of course), resources needed, and sacrifice that you might need to make, getting to your goal might be delayed in a manner that could be avoided by better preparation.

*When you reach that goal, what's next?
As hard as it is to imagine, once you reach that dream of success unless you create a new goal and level to reach you will not grow, and perhaps will even watch your success slowly slip away. I do not want you to get that far, and then turn around and lose it because either you got too comfortable, or you got bored.


*Set clear intentions before you even begin.
YES this means thinking and writing out what you DO NOT want as knowing the various contrasts in your life will lead to a clear desire. If you know you DO NOT want to work on weekends ... make that clear! Get out a sheet of paper, Put a line half way down the sheet to divide the paper vertically into two columns. On the left hand side (top) write "DON'T WANT" and the right side write "DO WANT". Write down something you don't want. Immediately to the right write something that you DO want that contrasts what you dislike. (Example: Don't want to work weekends = Having weekends free to enjoy from work.)

*Adjust your daily routine to prove it is truly a priority in your life. 
If it's worth it, you will do it. Simple as that. If you are wanting to write a book, you have to set aside time to do that. YES life is busy... but yes life gives us chances that we do not take. Again, simple as that.

*Allow yourself to grow, develop, and adjust.
Changing takes time, energy, and a whole lot of work! (No pun intended). BUT if you truly are doing all the things listed above to this very point ... YOU are headed in the right direction! I say to allow yourself to grow and develop because sometimes we think we want success in an area that really either doesn't need the time and attention at the moment OR... our focus changes. This is normal UNLESS you are allowing distractions to take over. That is when sometimes you have to take a day to adjust, evaluate, and regroup. ONLY YOU knows really what you want out of this life, even if you have shared it with every single person you know ... only you truly know the entire desire of your heart. You have a passion for what's important to you ~ that is natural!

*Do NOT quit just because it feels hard.
This is where I step in and say you are going to run into walls. Big walls. Hard walls. And yes, it will hurt. You will want to kick it, scream, and simply walk away stomping your feet.... but I want you to turn around, go back to that wall, and sit. Have yourself a good cry if you need. ADMIT that it is hard and that you need help and I can guarantee that the help you need will come! Sometimes we have to hit that wall to squash our pride and arrogance! I can't tell you where to find that help .... but I personally will simply just say I NEED YOUR HELP, I am stuck, and I am standing my ground to finish this!


*Open up the pathway to that "BE" phase by already acting and believing that you have reached your goal.
Sounds corny I know, but it puts you in the doorway of opportunity that you would have thought couldn't possibly work, help, or even make a difference. If your wanting to be more financially abundant and all of a sudden you are saving $75 a week on groceries .. that is $300 a month, and $3600 a year! UHM excuse me but that $75 dollars you just saved this week..... is what will lead to that financial abundance. I can do a lot with $3600... can't you?

*Propel yourself forward by already accepting it as truth! 
YOU ARE SUCCESSFUL! You have the capabilities and abilities to change the world around you starting with YOU! I am an author! I am a published author and public speaker! I do videos on YouTube everyday that is accessible to millions of people. So my dream of speaking to and inspiring millions of people has already come true!  Now I am working on the goal of face to face interactions and speaking events.

I do hope that this blog post has inspired, motivated, and encouraged you in some way! There is a video that I am releasing to go along with this post if you would like to view it simply CLICK HERE!

Hi! I am Sheila, wife of 20 years, mom to three teens, preschool teacher, blogger, writer, and now daily vlogger!
Send me snail mail! Sheila King P.O. Box 1104 Mont Belvieu Tx 77580

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Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Tasty Tuesday: Pasta Comfort Food with Pizzazz

Bacon, Tomato, Chicken & Kale Garlic Penne

3 tablespoons olive oil
1 pound chicken (chicken breast or tenders)
1 teaspoon paprika
1 packet of Zesty Italian Seasoning
1 can fire roasted diced tomatoes
1 cup frozen chopped kale
5 garlic cloves, minced
1 tablespoon crushed red pepper
6 bacon strips, cooked, drained and chopped
1 and 1/3 cups half and half or whipping cream
1 and 1/3 cups Parmesan cheese, shredded
10 oz penne pasta
1/2 cup Parmesan cheese, grated, for topping at serving

1,In a large skillet, on high heat, heat 2 tablespoons of olive oil until hot. Add cubed chicken and cook on one side on high heat for 1 minute. While it cooks, sprinkle the chicken with paprika and Italian seasoning. Stir the chicken until well cooked. Reduce heat to medium and continue to step 2.
2. To the same pan add canned tomatoes, kale, garlic, crushed red pepper, and bacon. Mix everything well.
3. Add half and half (or cream) and bring to boil. Only after half and half starts boiling, add grated Parmesan cheese - immediately reduce to simmer and stir, while simmering, until the cheese melts and makes the sauce creamy, only about 1 minute (at most 2 minutes). Then, immediately remove from heat. Season with more crushed red pepper and salt, if needed.
4. In the mean time bring a large pot of water to boil, add pasta and cook it according to instructions. Drain the pasta, rinse with cold water and drain again.
5. Add pasta to the skillet with the sauce. Season with more salt if necessary. To serve, top the pasta with grated Parmesan cheese

Saturday, January 9, 2016

When "I'm Sorry" Isn't Enough

We teach at a young age to say the words "I'm sorry" for mistakes made whether it be hurting someone physically, hurting their feelings, breaking something, taking something, etc. In the preschool setting this is something that is necessary to teach them the sense of community and how to function one day in relationships. There was a trend I began noticing over the last few years and it was the person who was being apologized to was saying "It's okay.". It's NOT okay!

If Jimbob took John's car out of his hands, and later gives it back and says "I'm sorry." John should NOT say "it's okay". Saying I'm sorry does not make the behavior okay.

"I'm sorry" also doesn't correct the problem nor does it prevent it from happening again. "I'm sorry" are words a form of communication between a wrong doer and hurt person. It is the opening of a conversation that should happen to bring forgiveness, grace, healing, and even understanding.

Forgiveness is biblical and yes even practical. Unforgiveness brings on bitterness, strife, anger, and can lead to a whole multitude of things that can destroy a person from murder, drug use, divorce, infidelity, self harm and so much more. Forgiving someone does not mean you are giving them permission to continue whatever it was. It does however give you a chance at peace. It also does require you to not hang it over that person's head. Forgiving someone doesn't mean you have to forget but ti does and can mean that you have chosen to extend grace to that person.

Every relationship requires forgiveness at one point or another from both people involved. This goes for every relationship under the sun from husband and wife, parent and child, employer and employee, friend to friend, even neighbors and strangers.

It is okay to say "I forgive you but... I DON"T like it when ....". In fact that is what we teach the kiddos in our class. They are taught proper conflict resolution from the very get go of the school year, and it is about this time of year we see the fruit of it. It is amazing to hear three and four year olds work out a problem on their own AND defend themselves without physical altercation or adult interaction. I see alot of adults who can't even handle conflict in a positive manner, and the garbage that piles up from that.

While this is not 100% true in every situation men tend to get over things a lot quicker than women. Women need to time to process emotions, words, and to think it through. We truly operate from the heart in most matters where men will operate them through wisdom in the mind. Like I said, it may not even be gender - but one person to another. Usually in most relationships there is an analytical thinker and a heart & emotion thinker. I am the latter. I take time to process through pain, hurt, and disappointment. But when I do, and come out the other side offering forgiveness it is over for me. I am able to move on in that grace. Its it easy? Not at all, but if it is a relationship I am invested in and not ready to walk away from then I endure the process.

There are times I have walked away from relationships that just weren't healthy. Was it painful? Yes. Was it difficult? Yes. But for me to be a strong and healthy human being in the relationships I have that are of utmost importance, I had to choose to let go of toxic ones. Again, not easy but in the whole picture it is easier than we sometimes allow. In those cases I still offer forgiveness, I just simply choose to close the book when I finish. We are not taught that sometimes forgiveness comes with a price. We are not taught to use discretion after grace is given.

I challenge you today if you have something that you need to ask forgiveness from someone or you need to offer the grace to forgive.. do it. Don't delay!


Hi! I am Sheila, wife of 20 years, mom to three teens, preschool teacher, blogger, writer, and now daily vlogger! Thank you for joining me for this blog post and my daily vlogs on YouTube! Today's post correlates with THIS VIDEO!
Send me snail mail! Sheila King P.O. Box 1104 Mont Belvieu Tx 77580
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