Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Being tenderhearted is not a common trait.

I can be in a room with five people and can "feel" what the other five people as well as myself can feel. Unless my own emotions and thoughts are dominate (and when I am in an environment that is not self involved ~ like teaching), I truly can feel what others feel without even thinking about it. I have to keep that in check and understand that it is a gift for a reason and not let it effect me in such a way that their feelings and emotions take over. If we are in a room together, and you are sad ... I will feel your sadness. If you are happy and joyful, I feel that joy and are happy with you.

Imagine my jaw drop when I hear that it is hard for some (many actually) to be joyful with others. In fact, from this conversation it seems for many people it is easier to be sad with a person than it is to rejoice with them. I am STILL trying to wrap my mind around that because it just isn't how my brain works.

Woah right!? I just can't fathom not wanting to feel joy with someone ~ but I am learning one important trait. We must stop having the expectations that others think just like we do. They do not process things the way we do. In fact, while there may be groups of us around, none of us ~ not one is just alike.

But really, my heart breaks! See over the last year a few months I have been really digging deep, allowing my true self (which I have buried so much since childhood) to arise and take the ownership it deserves. I have shared my journey and in some ways have pushed some away, and in other ways have inspired some to go out there and take a chance on their dreams. I have been rejected, but I have spent too much energy and time thinking that *I* was the problem ~ having  no clue that they just couldn't support me or rejoice with me because they were jealous, prideful, or even ashamed that their own life hasn't taken a turn. Here I am thinking I have done something wrong yet ... now I realize that the whole reaction (or lack there of) had really nothing to do with me but them! Understanding this, and realizing this almost clears the veil that has been hanging over my head. The veil of doubt (because of lack of true honest support), the veil of feeling lonely (they just think I am doing so well I don't "need" them ~ yet I need them more than ever), and the veil of confusion (mixed reactions suck!).

It explains why if someone is hurting they get a ton of support, but if someone is celebrating they are off in the corner alone. It also explains why people gossip ~ they'd rather talk ABOUT someone than to them about the situation. It also explains why more people do not spread the good things happening in their lives.

Just as more people should be tenderhearted, those who ARE already tenderhearted, should be more open and understanding. If you are tenderhearted ~ STOP waiting on others to celebrate (or accept) you! Just enjoy the moment, EVEN if it feels like you are alone.. it's worth it!


Tuesday, August 25, 2015

Tasty Tuesday: Winner Winner Ranch Italian Chicken Dinner

The concept is not new, but Ranch makes everything better!

 2 1/3 pounds Chicken Thighs (Boneless, skinless)
1 large can of green beans(or two regular sized ones)
2 pounds of Red potatoes quartered
1 Italian Seasoning packet
1 Ranch Packet
1 stick of melted butter
Drizzle of olive oil

In a large casserole, make three rows. One for the chicken, one for the potatoes, and one for the green beans. Drizzle each row with olive oil. Sprinkle both seasoning packets over all the ingredients. Drizzle melted butter over entire dish and bake covered with foil in a preheated 350* oven for 1 hour. Serve with fresh raw veggies (cucumbers, tomatoes, etc) and either hot crusty bread or croissants.


Monday, August 24, 2015

Motivation for your Monday: Excuses

One of the biggest reasons people do not meet the goals that they set out for themselves is that they lower their standards and make excuses.

My favorite definition of excuse comes from the Urban dictionary and it says this:
they are tools of incompetence, used to build monuments of nothingness, and those who specialize in them seldom accomplish anything.

It explains what an excuse is very easily and in such an amazing way. Do you know why? Because it doesn't leave room to make an excuse for the excuse itself. Amazing right?! 

Excuses are simply just a fence to keep you in the same situation you are in right now. The same situation you want so badly to get out of. I can't tell you how many people will use one excuse to stay in the negative state of mind rather than just doing what they know to do to make things better. 

You were not created to remain the same. Not even in marriage, parenthood, in your career, what have you. You were created to grow and evolve to become the person to fulfill a purpose in which only you can fill. By refusing to change, make changes, you not only hold yourself back ... you hold the whole world back. See, we all need one another, but we also need one another to be accepting of changes needed to take things to the next level. 

Are you holding yourself back from avoiding facing excuses in the face? Are you holding others back because you refuse to change? I don't know about you but change has become something I look forward to. I can feel if I have been in a rut, stuck in the same pattern, and the fence of excuses distract me from being what I need to be ~ not for me... but for the world! 

I love this scripture:

13 Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to preaching and to teaching. 14 Do not neglect your gift, which was given you through prophecy when the body of elders laid their hands on you.

15 Be diligent in these matters; give yourself wholly to them, so that everyone may see your progress. 16 Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers. 1 Timothy 4:13-16 NIV

See, by giving yourself wholly (completely) everyone CAN see your progress (that means your not going to stay the same) and by doing so you will save others as well as yourself! (You have NO IDEA the life you might impact by throwing to the side the excuses and pushing through. EVEN and ESPECIALLY when it's hard.

Ya'll have an amazing Monday and I"ll see ya around tomorrow! Photobucket 
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