Wednesday, March 3, 2010

A parenting perspective

This evening I have to come to you and share something. First, I didn't want to, who would? But, then I realized I have to. Remember my plea to live a life of inspiration? Yeah, sometimes that is hard. REALLY hard. Especially when you include every aspect of my life. Including parenting.
I have been given a run for my money, as the saying goes. From a 10 year old. And twin 7 year olds. BUT I have to say that I am thankful that God has given me the spirit in my parenting that He has. The wisdom. The desire to parent in a pleasing to God manor, not man's manor. Is it hard? Absolutely! Especially when we parent with purpose.

See, I am not parenting just because I want to be a Mom. I am parenting with the conviction that it matters. Everything we do, each little moment matters. EVERYTHING can become a teachable moment. We have been dealing with situations of disobedience. Now, I am thankful that I have a husband who will stand side by side with me in our parenting, I couldn't do this on my own. Disobedience in children comes in many forms.

We are a very tradtional southern family. We are raising our kids to say Yes sir, Yes Maam', No sir, and No maam. PERIOD. We are also working on teaching our children to do something  the very first time we tell them. NO exceptions. Anytime, something is given to our children to do we expect it to be done. If it is not, then it is an obvious that they have chosen to be disobedient.

The sad reality (especially as a teacher ) is many parents aren't taking that option. They do not realize that not only are they robbing their family unit of what it needs, they are not setting up an understanding of what it means to be obedient. If we can't learn to obey our parents, how hard is it going to be to understand being obedient to God? Everything we do as parents, leads up to that.

Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
Now don't get me wrong. Our kids are great. They really are. I feel very blessed in my children. I have witnessed some doozies, and have come to the conclusion that we definately plant the seeds young. (BUT it is never too late!) While this evening was difficult for a few minutes, I know that in myheart, one day our children will be grateful for parents who truly loved them enough to care how they are raised. We don't love our children through material things, though we give quite a bit. We love our children through how we parent. If your giving your child everything they want, yet not setting boundaries your only robbing them of their future. There is plenty of time for them to get the things they desire ~ but there is not time like right now to show your child love through discipline.

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4


1 comment:

  1. "one day our children will be grateful for parents who truly loved them enough to care how they are raised" amen!! So much truth to loving our children by the way we parent. This post was spot on.


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