Love. It's a beautiful thing. Love. It should be easy, but we make it out to be this long hard drawn out process. Children on the other hand? They love easily. We were created to love easily!! What makes it so hard? Life experience and believing the many lies of the evil one who would have us believe the lies that hold us back from loving completely. Perhaps getting a broken heart makes it difficult but can I let you in on a secret?
Love is easy! It's the letting go of our expectations of others and circumstances that is difficult. That is when we find ourselves having a hard time loving or even being able to be loved. I think about how many times the door to love has been opened, and I personally slammed it shut. Why? Too busy, too occupied to be "bothered" yet felt alone when I had "time" to be loved ~ and no one was around. How many times have we felt so alone because we have either shut those around us out or we have secluded ourselves? Here is something I have personally noticed about the above scripture selection. I will break it down by each verse, so that I can share the thoughts.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Envy, boasting and pride all come from expectations unmet. We might get envious because our life does not mimic the same of someone else. They may have "better" whatever ~ and we fall into the life of "The grass is greener on the other side" syndrome. When we boast it is again, because our own expectations were met to our approval. Pride often comes in self righteousness ~ when we become all we need.
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.We dishonor others when expectations are not met ~ either our own expectations of them, or our own self. When we are self seeking ~ we cannot love because we are full of expectations. We get easily angered when we OUR expectations are not met and it we keep a tally ~ of who owes what to make US feel better.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
When we do not have expectations, we are free to delight in whatever happens during the day, and by not having expectations we are able to be free to enjoy the moment. Mess that up by having an expectation of the day ~ and you will find yourself gossiping, getting anger, delighting in revenge.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres
Walking in love, without expectations will not only protect your heart, but will protect the way you view your life. You begin to trust in God alone and understanding that God's ways for the day are so much better then you could have ever conjured up. Walking in love without expectations gives you hope in the day ~ hope that by the end of the day you will look back and NOT have any regrets. Walking in love, without expectations you see that the battles before you whether it be a messy house, unattended yard work, a difficult conversation will be conquered with greatness because love prevails all!
I challenge you today ~ even in this very moment, to let go of your expectations of your day and give your day to God! Ask HIM to fill your day and lead your life moment by moment. Let go of the expectations that you have of other people. Let go of the expectations of yourself, and allow God to move you into a precious way of life that does indeed allow you to let go, and to love! Life is too precious to waste on living up to (Or asking others to) expectations.